December 31, 2023
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Finding a balance between staying safe during cold and flu season and enjoying life can be complicated. I’m challenging myself to find a combination that works for both my body and my soul.
In late 2019, I received a diagnosis of what my rheumatologist referred to as “textbook psoriatic arthritis.” I can still remember leaving my first-ever rheumatology appointment, with snow falling outside, holding my “after-visit summary” paperwork with my X-ray results stapled to the back in one hand and the weight of the knowledge that my world had just flipped on its axis in the other.
I had been warned since I’d received a psoriasis diagnosis at age 12 that I had the potential to develop this kind of arthritis. But, like most people, I didn’t think it would happen to me — until it did.
I put off starting medication initially, out of fear (of being immunosuppressed, of experiencing side effects, etc.), until I eventually reached a point where my joint pain got so bad I felt like I no longer had a choice.
I started on methotrexate in March 2020, which was particularly terrifying given that a new and potentially dangerous virus that nobody knew much about was circulating the globe. I was being told to take medication that would suppress my immune system during a time when it seemed to me like I probably needed my immune system the most.
I took isolating and protecting myself to the next level over the next couple of years, and it worked, as evidenced by the fact that I never got sick.
But fast-forward to mid-2022, when life began to slowly sort of move back to a new version of normal. There I was with absolutely no clue what “normal” meant for me, a person with PsA on an immunosuppressant.
I felt trapped in a sort of confusing gray area because my life was no longer the same as it had been before the pandemic, and I had never been on immunosuppressants in a non-pandemic world.
I was so used to always wearing a mask and saying no to a lot of social events and things I really wanted to do in order to stay healthy. I felt frozen when it became safer to relax precautions a bit. “How do I do that?” I thought. “How much can I safely do that?”
For most of 2022 and early 2023, I continued to say no to most everything out of fear. Looking back, I realize that I tried so hard to avoid getting sick as a way to feel more in control of an out-of-my-control situation after receiving a diagnosis of an autoimmune condition.
Let me tell you, it was miserable. I ended up missing out on a lot in my life, which is sad because PsA already makes me miss out on more than I would like.
Over the last year, I’ve really been challenging myself to try to find more of a healthy balance between staying as safe as I can and still living and really enjoying my life. I get all my immunizations, I eat healthy, I exercise, I avoid people who I know are sick, and I wash my hands. But I no longer isolate myself from the world completely “just in case” or just because I’m on immunosuppressant medication.
I think a lot of us with chronic conditions feel like we’re responsible for managing our conditions perfectly. For me, for a while, that meant not getting sick at all. Ever.
But what I’m learning is that it’s not actually about doing it “perfectly.” It’s about doing the best I can and giving myself a lot of grace. It’s about managing my PsA well enough that my pain, stiffness, and fatigue don’t get in the way of me living my life the way I want to — and if not exactly the way I want to, then mostly the way I want to.
Those of us with chronic conditions deserve to live and enjoy life just as much as anyone else, even if we’re on immunosuppressants. We deserve to go out and have fun when we feel OK enough to do so, even if there’s a slight risk that we could come down with a cold.
Life includes mess-ups. For those of us with PsA, it also includes flares. I’m realizing that it’s about finding a balance.
It’s possible for me to acknowledge that I’m on a type of medication that suppresses my immune system, that getting sick often leads to flares for me, and that I need to try my best to stay safe. But I can also accept that I can’t control every little thing or outcome. And that’s OK.
I wasn’t put here to manage life and PsA perfectly 24/7. That’s not possible. But I will try my very best to create and experience a life with PsA that is rich with connection, learning, love, laughter, and enjoyment. Now I’m focusing not only on the needs of my body but also on the needs of my soul!
Medically reviewed on December 31, 2023
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